My ex has new girl and I'm crushed - sorry this was posted wrong 1st time, Ex girlfriend says she'll reach out "when she's ready", When She Becomes Distant: What Men Do Wrong. So I also felt I needed this guy to know that I didn’t harbor any malice towards him in case I died. Part of me feels like he wants me back in his life, which I could consider, but I’m also seeing all kinds of red flags. I said sorry and I never got an apology back, but my own apology did help me to close the door on a bad relationship. You seem to hold a lot of doubts, I think the best way to deal with those is to do as my post states––go into this apology expecting absolutely nothing back. The thing is I have been the biggest jerk to her in these 5 years. The only person that can ever answer that is your ex., but from personal experience - every now and then I think about past boyfriends, especially the ones who were kind to me and close to my family. As long as your apology isn’t a veiled excuse to try get them back and you’re careful not to make it sound like you’re doing them a huge favor by saying sorry. Apologise because it’s the right thing to do––without any other reason behind it. He was a chain smoker. I love reading and responding to everyone’s comments, so feel free to leave a comment of your own. As to what to tell him, I like what you wrote here: I have grown up and realized that I was immature then, and have realized the faults I have made. I kinda let … But he’s the first guy I’d ever allowed myself to date and even kiss for the first time (I’m 21 and he’s 25). Whether or not he wants to take ownership over not asking you is his business, and not your place to dictate. Your reasoning sounds understandable enough. I’m just not sure if I try to text him if he will retaliate in anger or not. Spends her days writing novels, musing on her blog & working on her soon to be released 'Harlow' Trilogy. Unfortunately, I don’t think I will ever discover the answer. Or maybe life hasn’t given them an opportunity to heal in the same way you have and they can’t find it in their heart to forgive you. I really do want to apologise to him, for him. I just don’t know if I should apologise to her, I just don’t want to argue with her anymore as we live near each other so will continue to bump into each other, I’m not perfect but I would rather say hi when we bump into each other because I get the feeling she would like the same. It was a really bad experience for me. I don’t want to enter her life again because I’ll end up hurting her again. I said to hell with it and wrote the dude a letter. I need some serious support! I was severely depressed afterwards. I was given sorries from people by only saying “I’m sorry” and that didn’t work. The fact is you don’t know what’s going on in another persons heart, they might want your apology, just as much as you want to give it. We almost always regret the things we don’t do. What you’ve said in the past is, “You’re pain doesn’t exist, I didn’t see why I should say sorry.”. So perhaps your experience was meant to happen so you could both progress in some way. should i talk to my ex lover wife and ask firgiveness because until now she is upset to me. My advice, Mike, is that you’ve laid the situation and your feeling out pretty well already in this comment. If they react badly or call you names, or even worse, ignore your apology altogether; that’s the price you pay for hurting another person. He wouldn’t talk or want to see me anymore. Don’t get comfortable and slide back into old habits. He always wanted to explore the world and we knew that since the very beginning. There’s nothing wrong with tying up loose ends and trying to make good for the past. I did not really have any feelings for this friend (plus he was a player kind of guy, so i knew this would never work), plus my mom started to warn me about this friend. The last 2 weeks I am dreaming about him, cannot stop thinking about him and I am sick to my stomach over reaching out. I’m glad you found my post helpful! Provided you weren’t out and out abusive back in the day, use some of what you’ve written here and contact her. Thank you for your post… I just wrote an email to my ex whom I broke up almost 10 years ago. We both treated each other bad. However, after few months, my mom found out about us and started to emotionally torture me and watching my each steps (she wanted me to marry someone else). He was also not communicating as much as he did before. I didn’t know how to show him that except with silent treatment..he thought I had broken up with him (I was young and stupid-17 yrs to be precise). Please let me know. You need to really be back in touch and create what I like to call an open platform of communication where you feel comfortable to reach out to someone without second guessing yourself. I later found out that they had argued about me because the man she was with was very very jealous or threatened by me even though I had never met him?? Would I be betraying my husband to reach out (non-romantically) to an ex? I was wondering, am I doing the right thing? Around the same time, I found out that my ex lied to me about stopping his smoking habit. The relationship stuff I would leave up to fate. Thank you, I need to explain myself. For every story of an ex’s contact upsetting someone, there’s another story of the contact being healing – you really can only roll the dice and see how this plays out. 10 years ago I tried to reach out when my mother passed away and I called his mom, she informed me he had gotten married and moved to Ukiah, so I left it alone. I tried to call my ex and he asked me why did I try to reach him out? More than ever, I wouldn’t accept an apology from others as they mean nothing to me. Yes I want to feel a little less guilty. If you decide to stick with no contact, remember to work on improving yourself and your emotional stability. He called me immediately and asked me if he could still talk to me time to time. I am married and living hundreds of miles away, but I fantasize about sending him a letter. Write a letter, stating why you should apologize and your feelings then burn it. I want to apologise more than anything. I feel lIke it is wOrth it sometimes and others I feel like all I would do is upset her or anger her family. I just want to say that I understand some of your situation. , Hi, thank you for the article it was the most logical article I’ve come across. Then when I came back to my senses, I realized that what I did wasn’t really fair for him. I’ve wanted to apologise for hurting him and explain. . She met somebody else very soon but was having problems with him, she then came near my place of work so we started talking again and she was reminiscing over old times this went on for a few months then she went back to her other man, when I put a post on Facebook a few months later she commented on it, I then put a video post on Facebook about some cooking and she got her friend to comment and basically asked to taste my food?? It’s Okay for you to consider taking him back, HOWEVER there’s a reason (or maybe many reasons) you two broke up. I call it recovery because I know by now she will never leave my dreams and thoughts. New Video: Should You Apologize to an Ex, Even if Years Have Passed? Reaching out to her was a big mistake and just set me back years in my recovery. How could I hurt a person like that? I left my boyfriend twice. Remember, you aren't the only one who romanticizes the past. Fast forward to 6 mos ago. I told him “I need to talk to you” (out of nerves, I would have worded it a lot better but I’m a bit rubbish when confrontation and it was in passing… I know, that was stupid). She said she was free all weekend but I had plans to go out with some mates which she didn’t like but I offered to cancel so I could see her she said that I’ve made plans I should stick to them, so I went out then that night she text me to say we’re finished!! So basically I hear empty words and I’ll be like, whatever as it doesn’t do anything to me. We’d make really great friends too and I wouldn’t be awkward about it, I still sort of want to keep him in my life, but not in any romantic way. I get some answers of “yes” and some of “NO! I did write that i wanted to write him for a long time but didn’t know if it was aporopriate and also that I didn’t expect him to reply to me. For the most part it felt like I was viewing a new television game show called “Who Wants to be a Masochist?” So what if the apology rids you of some guilt? I am so torn…. Otherwise you’ll just be playing the same old broken record. I needed to be there by 4:30. Question: My husband wants a divorce, but I don't. That’s it. RECENTLY BROKEN UP....GOT A QUESTION, IS IT OVER IF AFTER 30DAYS NC EX DON'T REACH OUT? Or if it will hurt him and delay his own healing process. Her friends are also very angry(which is understandable) with me. Wife of 15 years had an affair with family friend.... Is it wrong to want my wife to have sex with a black man? Katerina Simms Answers: Why do women desire diamonds? Few months later, my mom’s emotional blackmail raised to its peak. The ex is your ex for a reason. Reaching Out After Multiple Years The hardest part of getting your ex back is making the first contact with them. When I explain this concept to the people I coach during private consultation, one of the questions that always seems to pop up soon after is “when should I reach out to my ex” then”? I don’t think you were entirely wrong in stepping back. Even a simple message like “long time no see…how are things with you?” can be very effective. I feel as though I may come across sounding like a broken record. We didn’t even get a chance to share how we felt about each other. Our relationship was intense but yet very uneven. Best to see what emotional state you’re both in and if enough has changed and will be different this next time around for this to perhaps go differently. As long as you’re aware of that, just be cautious and see where this goes. I’d be totally weirded out if an ex popped up after 10 years to update me on his marital status, but happy to read as a post on Facebook under public settings. All details will remain private. No one cares why, even if they are the ones asking. You might like to read my article on why we choose to love bad people, it might not apply completely to your situation, but it might bring up some questions as to why and if you should push any kind of relationship with this guy. Forget Ghosting—This Is the Dating Trend You Haven't Heard of Yet I just stumbled upon this article and it’s really amazing to hear from people and how much they have changed for the better. I have apologized in the past and for all the wrong reasons. I feel terrible for breaking his heart, for keeping him hanging, for lying about my feelings for him- I was mean and I want him to know that it wasn’t anything he did that made me so awful, and that I’m not actually an awful person. Dating an ex after years apart is a golden opportunity that you cannot waste. Thank you for this article. Saying sorry could be a big step in them finding their healing. I’m absolutely so thankful of this article! Post was not sent - check your email addresses! I came across this recently and I’m in the process of writing an apology letter to my. It might just help liberate me from the guilt and help me to move on. Reply to this message. At the end of the day you cannot control their reaction, just as much as they couldn’t control yours when you were set on hurting their feelings. That friend of mine asked me out a month or so later. Anything you send him will be a … Would be helpful thanks, Thanks heaps for alerting me to this issue, Julie! I’m scared I’ll always just think of him and nobody else. I know this seems like a cut and dry question. In all these years she told me things like “you can’t imagine how much I miss you.. Thanks so much for the post. I sent it to his parents house and I don’t even know if he ever read it and if he did I doubt he cared. I have had urges like this in he past and I would reach out and we would catch up which usually included hooking up and 3 times he asked me to marry him, the last time in 1999 each time I turned him down.. and I haven't spoken to him since. if you contact him while hes married you will just cause drama for everyone involved. When your ex girlfriend reaches out after a long time of no contact, the emotions come back, old passions flare, and your brain starts spinning around wondering what the heck you should do. As long as you don’t expect anything from her, I don’t see why her or her family should be angry at you. After reading those letters and reflecting on what I remember of how the relationship ended it dawned on me about how she may have been hurt. You'll only qualify for benefits based on an ex-spouse's record if your marriage lasted 10 years and you've been divorced for at least two consecutive years. His apology. I completely judged him based on the opinions of others. But it’s a big assumption to think they wouldn’t care. Obviously she meant a lot to you and you made a mistake leaving her. I wouldn’t go in right away trying to rekindle things. I am so ashamed, I wish I was still with him. I love him and I know he loved me, we just had our issues. I feel like I have really hurt him. Change your behavior and I want proof, otherwise your wasting your time. I left him alone with all the wounds. The reason many advice columns say not to apologize is because so many apologies are done incorrectly and for weak reasons. My issue in apologizing is the reason why; Am I doing it for me, or am I doing it for her? By then I’ll see if you changed or not. I miss him a lot and our family, grown sons and grandchildren. After two divorces, Hellen, an attractive 60-year-old, had become comfortably single. So when I tried to contact him, he didn’t really want to have to do anything with me anymore. I’m here to tell you that this is a BIG opportunity for you …and it’s something you … LOL! Although, I have some grey areas I thought you could possibly shed some light on for me (if you don’t mind). I just wasn't ready. In which case most people, even if they have moved on, will still appreciate your effort. I still care for him, a lot. Like actually terrified. Have the HARDEST TIME with the love of my life!! I guess I don’t really want us getting back together, but I’d just really wanted to explain myself on why I acted that way. "You’d never turn down your dream job … Many times, there is rejection that the ex was not expecting, and returns to one … Our relationship was intense but yet very uneven. Then to make sure that he does not call me anymore, I told him a lie “I can not talk to you anymore cause one of my guy friend will not like that”. I believe we are on this earth to learn and love, and learn about love. Should I just reach out again or go no contact? I just don’t know how to handle this kind of case. Being married really puts the past in perspective and make me feel like a lot of what we said and do were childish and immature…. That was many years ago and I finally feel the need to apologize wholeheartedly. Talk is cheap. Mind you, don’t put this guy on a pedestal. I haven’t spoken to Priya for 2 months. When you say you fear your ex will retaliate in anger, if you mean literally try to hurt or damage you, then please do not contact him. I broke our promises. After 17 agonizing years, I finally tied up my loose ends. After 30 years I found some letters from a girlfriend whom I have never truly forgotten. Thank you, I’m glad we share a viewpoint on this topic. As years go by, I realize I had truly loved this guy and I still care even though there is no part of him left in my present. I’ve been in situations where it was obvious I was the wronged party. I got really mad and stopped calling him/emailing him and told him that I won’t talk to him until he stops smoking. And whatever you do, do not say “I’m sorry you were hurt”, no one wants to hear you apologize for how they feel. We weren’t actually in a relationship yet but we were exclusively dating. Of course both of you have changed. So what? For the first two years he probably still believed there was hope but after that he removed me from his contacts and lists which was really the only way to contact him cause he had relocated to another continent right after I ‘left’ him (for his undergrad that I hadn’t known about either at that time). I heard this works. He was my boyfriend in a difficult time in my life and I took out my pain on him; he is the only person I have ever been truly unkind to and completely selfish with. Obviously she meant a lot to you and you made a mistake leaving her. Tell him some variation of this, be open and honest––for two reasons––so he has all the information and so you don’t walk away wishing you’d said something but didn’t say it. Irrespective of whether I get a reply or not, delivering the apology should be my prime focus. I’ve been trying to ignore it because I can’t solve it. Hi the link to the sample of good apology letter can’t be found. It took me 5 years to realize just how important she is to me, and now I would like to apologize in the best possible way. If your intentions are really about forgiveness and not about manipulation, I think you should absolutely write the letter and if the person who receives it doesn’t understand then that is okay bc at least somewhere inside them there is a weight removed whether it be hurt feelings or regret. this is a very helpful article but I still need a little help. Weirdly, whether we like it or not, exes do this all the time– and it’s important not to automatically decide that your ex wants you back. That way, whatever happens, you can’t be disappointed. This many be the case but remember, we’re big kids now. My Ex found out of two horrific tragedies, and one upsetting situation that I recently suffered. Obviously she meant a lot to you and you made a mistake leaving her. I just don't want to try again if he's still married, but at the same time what if he isn't married and my contact is welcomed? tame your ego. If you decide to stick with no contact, remember to work on improving yourself and your emotional stability. In this case it might seem like a redundant apology, but you’re not likely to bruise your ego too much. How could I be so cruel? A man that I once knew many years ago contacted me on Facebook 2 years ago and supposedly had searched me out for 10 years. You have said what I initially believed but started doubting myself. Didn’t expect to be this shook by this, since I’ve subsequently moved on and am (happily) in a committed, long-term relationship. We were only together for a short time but had some good times. I now known that she has moved on and is happy in her life which I’m glad for her. My ex had these things to say to me after our relationship had ended over five years earlier. I just could not take all these pressure anymore besides our communication also fell apart so much that one day I just sent him an email and broke up with him. I lost my patience with his ’emotional unavailability’ and aloofness I guess. Where was this article a month ago!! You now have the chance to get the woman you love back and experience a new and profound love with her. I would reach out to her and have that closure. Although I am married, I had been thinking of her a great deal over the past several years.It was affecting my life in a negative manner and I needed closure to "get on with it," so I … Okay so I have childhood ex that I havent seen for about 5 years now because me and my family decided to move somewhat far away at the time… Only temporary though .. 4 years was the plan, but now it’s been extended to 6 years. His email said that he’d had some things on his mind. Romance Writer & Recovering Former Mermaid. Thank you for this update, I’m glad my writing has helped you . Second, though you might open an ‘old’ wound, there’s also a chance you’ll heal an old wound too and your apology may well be what the wronged party needs. I just can’t believe that I did such inhuman things to the person I loved. Is it acceptable to do this? Actually, whenever I wake up from a dream she appeared in, I feel that we have a special connection that I have felt no one else.. I broke up with my ex a couple of months ago (don’t want to go into great detail, but basically it’s because I was confused/unsure as it was my first serious relationship so had no clue), but now I really regret it. That’s it. I have been living with so much guilt for almost 5 and a half years now because it all ended so spontaneously. I know he wants me to come home. And who knows, maybe he finally has his too. P.S: Here is an article on how to write a good apology. I was 18 and the jealous type and acted poorly. I had every right to argue his behavior was the reason for my inflicting pain but ultimately I’m a grown woman and I’m the one responsible for how I act. … If there's no one else around, people have a nasty habit of reaching for their phones to drunk call or text their ex. Priya and I were now best friends and I was obviously in a bad place but she took care of everything and made this time really easy for me. Hey, have you checked out the book “The Peacemaker” by Ken Sande? Any advice? It’s been bothering me lately and It is not that I’m looking to get anything from it, but I feel compelled to apologize. Thanks so much for the article. "You'll be joyfully surprised if you get a positive response," Walfish notes. I never got to tell him that I had depression. "Expectations lead to letdowns and disappointments." image credit: mikebaird, Simson Petrol, ME. An ex is in the midst of apologizing to me (via text). Remember, you aren't the only one who romanticizes the past. If you ex does reach out to you, consider the request with caution. Only once a month he would call me and yell at me saying that I have changed so much, and that I don’t care about him anymore. So in my typical fashion, I’m going to buck the trend and say that, YES, if you’re doing it for the right reasons, you should apologize to an ex. Do not take this as an invitation to harp on about your suffering, just mention that your self-inflicted regret has affected you and leave it there. I didn’t do it for anyone else but ME because I deserve to have peace too. While doing my research for this article, I found the general answer to this question was, NO. It may be the past but it haunts my future. I really pissed him off and he stopped all of his communication with me. I was just sort of wondering if I’m doing the right thing? Thank you for your post… I just wrote an email to my ex whom I broke up almost 10 years ago. He was a really nice and loved me like crazy. The thing is I can tell when an apology is not met with sincerity, as I’m sure she could too. The best thing you can do here is keep it short and friendly. I’ll wait for the right time to apologize if I have to but when will I know if its the right time? First, you might be opening an old wound, but I doubt it. I can only speak from my own experience as someone who’s been ghosted. Hi Katerina! The guilt of hurting someone so badly is ruining my day to day life months later and it feels like it wont end. wordum says: … To see that you’ve grown from what has happened, in itself can bring great healing. “Hi Alex, just got to the office today and there was an email from out-of-the-blue from my Ex boyfriend who’d dumped me for another woman almost 10 years ago. You’re right, I must do this only because this is the right thing to do (exactly why it’s been on my mind for months). I’m thinking of apologizing to ex after long 12 years. This is amazing. My BF lets his 15 year old daughter sleep with him. I hadn’t been this nervous to go on a date since my first real date (which had been with the same person I was seeing today, only 10 years prior). I will then tell that person to change by action, not words so by saying or working up an apology won’t work for me. And it was both times because he was emotionally unstable and so was I so we were not a healthy match. If what you did truly hurt someone, my guess is if they still harbor bad feelings about what you did, the wound never closed anyway. Do you like how your life looks without your ex? I want to say how sorry I am for being that guy back then. I’m Sorry for What Happened. I’m not sure I would respond back – as you said – it’d feel like opening old wounds. We were young and I was stupid for making stupid mistakes at that age. Thank you for your post… I just wrote an email to my ex whom I broke up almost 10 years ago. You did something crappy to another human being, you can afford to lose a little face. It’s a little too ‘new age’ for what I’d say (please don’t start talking about a vortex), but the core message of feeling separated from ourselves within a relationship is well described https://www.facebook.com/monique.vandervleuten.7/videos/vb.100001720568878/161043580629660/?type=2&theater. That’s why I’ve decided to dedicate an entire article to help guide you and provide you with the … 10 years ago I tried to reach out when my mother passed away and I called his mom, she informed me he had gotten married and moved to Ukiah, so I left it alone. This might be true. Question: My husband wants a divorce, but I don't. As a matter of fact, most people dream about their ex-partner every now and then—whether it’s been 5 months or 5 years after the breakup. I am so sorry and ashamed of what I did. You were both young, and made mistakes––own up to yours, which was not to talk to him. Again, thank you for writing exactly what I believe. (I know for myself they are but are they for him?) I am happy with my life but I often think about him and think what I did wrong. What’s worse is that his friends led him to believe that I had cheated on him and left him for another guy who was actually my bestfriend. I can’t believe how stupid I was. I just want a better closure because he deserves it and it would also help me as well. Somehow I’ve Achieved THE Most Voted Answer on Quora! What does time have to do with it if there’s a chance you can put things right? While she tried hard to keep the contact with me, I have mainly replied in short ways as if I wasn’t interested in keeping the contact at all. Just wanted to say that this is one of the very few articles online that actually kinda answers the question based on real understanding of the different scenarios or feelings associated. Everyone speaks as though doing this is such a horrible thing. That she found someone to love her and whom she loves. The last message she wrote, was that she had a dream about me, that I had become a criminal and that being the reason that I could not come back to her.. Two days after that, she got in a relationship.. .. Now, I realize that I should not have cut our communication just because of his smoking. Yeah, my cheating university ex used to reach out to chat and ask how my life was going every now and then for ~5 years after we broke up. If it has been a great deal of time since the breakup like a year(s) than don’t do it. I would reach out to her and have that closure. I have had dreams about her being angry or upset with me and I wake up wanting to message her online to say my peace, but I’m not sure if it is the right thing to do. Maybe it’s because I knew that I would move back there one day. Sometimes it can also be helpful to let your ex know the ways they've hurt you. This would have to be the number one sentiment I found. I will be moving back soon and I want her back in my life even though if it’s just as a friend. I feel like he did genuinely cared about me and I did too but he had anger problems and other unresolved problems which is why I had left the relationship. 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